Solange is offering powerful advice to her teenage self in a letter published in Teen Vogue on Wednesday.
In the essay, the 30-year-old reflects on her journey while talking about learning to appreciate her mother, losing a friend to gun violence, and becoming a mother at 17 — all the while being unapologetically herself.
Kicking off the piece, Solange tells her younger self to embrace the many phases she’ll go through (yes, even the one where she was determined to marry Brandon Boyd of Incubus):
"there will be fear. a lot of it. there will be triumph. a lot of it. there will be constellations you want to reach for but can’t put your finger on. you will trace them like the scars on your body you got from trouble and the times of your life. you will take the long way to get to these Orions. the long way will become a theme in your life, but a journey you learn to love."
Beyonce‘s kid sis goes on to express gratitude that "the universe chose your mom to be your mother."
She pens on Mrs. Tina Knowles-Lawson:
"you realize watching a woman balance being a supportive mother, building a successful business from the ground up that was started in her garage, and giving back to the community will make you feel invincible and like the word "no" is just an echo in the universe that you’ll never know. you often take her for granted, but you know with every joint in your bones that she is a phenomenon and you strive to make her proud. you should thank her out loud more, too; tell her you value her. roll your eyes and your neck less. it’s not as cute as you think. tell her you appreciate all that she does, for she makes the impossible look effortless."
Later, Solange admits that 17 was he hardest year of her life — as she lost a close friend to gun violence, and welcomed her son Daniel within the same year:
"seventeen will be the hardest year of your life. it will grow you up almost immediately. you will lose your best friend whom you love so much to gun violence in a single moment, and give birth to a new one within a year. you will be terrified, and it’s ok that you don’t know what the future holds. some people will count you out because of the decision you’ve made to bring another life into the world so young, but you made the decision out of love and will live with the decision in love."
And finally, the Cranes In The Sky songstress offers:
"there will be pain, there will be doubt there will be beauty, there will be the unknown. there will be so many moments of joy and delight that the whole universe will feel painted in hues of amber and wonder. there will be times you are so sad you can’t lift your head. and there will be times you are so happy that the sensation of life knocks you down. but most importantly, there will be you. a whole, whole lot of it. and you will feel good about who she is and who she is still becoming."
There’s truly no one else like Solange!